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Just to be clear

Okay, some of you may know about my Thanksgiving plans.  Many who do know think I'm nuts, so I thought I'd clarify things a tad.

For those who don't know, I will be hosting Thanksgiving for my ex and his parents at my house.  This is very bizarre to many people, so here we go:

1.)  We ARE NOT back together.  Nor will we EVER be. (Cue in Taylor Swift song).

2.)  I am nice to him, and he to me.  Why?  We have two babies who need that more than they need to see us cold and snappy towards each other.

3.)  My in-laws know the situation.  I explained what I wanted from them when we first split.  I wanted them to put the needs of the grand kids first, and mercifully, they agreed.

4.)  Since the two of us do not have any significant others, we are keeping the tradition of Maple/Christmas; Huddleston Thanksgiving for odd years, and vice versa for even years, that we did while we were together.  I can't think up any better ideas, so there you go.

5.)  My ex has to have supervised visits.  His parents house is too small, and the area is not safe, anyway.  Thus, the logical conclusion is my house.

There.  That's the gist.  I am not trying to be "saint-like," nor am I overly kind.  I am doing what needs to be done to try and ensure that my kids' happiness is top priority.  I am trying to avoid the trauma that you hear about all too often that divorce kids experience.  The End.

Comments

  1. AmandaNovember 25, 2013 at 10:12 AM

    good for you rachel. hope it goes well - and years down the road, your kids will appreciate the effort you set forth

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  2. Aunt MimiDecember 1, 2013 at 7:57 AM

    You are smart although I hope you do not have to prepare the entire meal & you get some money to defray the costs.

    I have spent Christmas Eve Day with my ex & my second husband at my mother in law's for my daughter's birthday. His then wife did not show nor did she let her kids attend. The day was fun I felt no stress. The ex was okay.

    You do what you have to do. My problem was the 2 of the steps to my children had been in my life prior to my divorce. They ran to meet me when I came to pu/return my son. I loved thoae kids.

    You have to do this.

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  3. LishDecember 1, 2013 at 3:32 PM

    1. You are saint-like.
    2. You are a wonderful mom!! And a pretty great ex-wife. ;)

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